**DISCLAIMER - I am sick. So, I won't be around much today or maybe the rest of the week, which means my commenting will be off. But, I will be checking my emails when I can drag my ass to the computer. I have posts ready to go for the rest of the week, so I hope to entertain you all!**
As most of you know, I am all about the comments....I give and I like to receive. I'm a giver and a taker. I do for you, you do for me. Yada Yada Yada.
Before I get into my little experiment, I want to say that YOU ALL ROCK! Last Tuesday I got 85 comments!! Holy crap, Batman!! Of course, the keeping it up might be an issue for those that peeked out of the woodwork, but hey, it's a start!! LOVE YOU ALL!!
Now, on to my experiment. Like I said above...I comment. I comment a lot. I spend hours commenting and replying to all the comments from you...at least the ones that I can reply to. I have made it my personal mission to achieve blog domination before I can achieve world domination, and I feel the way to do that is to comment and reply. Also, I really get off on doing things that I don't get paid for but take up a ton of time like blogging and raising kids. I roll like that.
I have 304 blogs in my reader. 304! Is that insane?? And, not nearly half of those comment or even visit or even acknowledge my tiny existence. Now, I realize that some of these katz have lots of visitors and may have a life outside of this bubble we call blogging, but I don't, so there!
So, the question is...is it worth to keep the ones that don't acknowledge me and haven't since I started this little adventure in my reader?? It takes time to go through each of these blogs and clear them out of the reader. On Monday mornings it is a NIGHTMARE!
This is what I'm gonna do. I am going to visit each and every blog on my reader and leave a comment...give em a friendly reminder that I am alive and well. If there is a comment or reply back...they stay....if not...they go. I will of course give them some time to get around to it, after that...buh bye.
I don't know about the rest of you, but it is tiring to wave your hands in the air while jumping up and down screaming "Over here...yoo hoo....here I am....notice me.....hey, you.....look over here....overrrrr heeeerrrrreeeeeee....."
I need to get a life, don't I??
Now, I want you all to follow Tiffany at On The Verge...this gal is HYSTERICAL!! She is witty and smart and oh so funny. I get excited when she comments...which is every time, because she always has something great to say and also I love her posts. Seriously...if you don't go over there and visit her, you will SO regret it!!
She is my first commenter on the list!! Now, for you Snarklers...don't worry, your time will come, but let's be honest...everyone who follows me follows all of you!! Yes, you know who you are!!
Oh, and if you are following and haven't let me know, please do so I can return the favor....I can always use more blogs to beef up the old reader!!
Love you all!! You all ROCK!
74 Hot Flashes of Inspiration:
I'm right there with you. I have 258 blogs on my reader and there are a good amount who are pretty silent as far as commenting. Not that I comment for hits, but still, it would be nice if some bloggers acknowledged there is life outside of their URL.
Feel better :)
I know the feeling and as of right now I only have 10 followers lol.. I love writing but sometimes it can feel like it's to an empty wall.. I am here pretty much everytime you put up a post as I check my list every day several times to keep up.. Have a blessedday and hope you feel better soon
You ask a great question! I wonder about other blogs out there with 700 to 1,000 followers. I'm know they aren't commenting on all their followers. So how do they keep their followers? Is it content?
I don't know. But I wish I did.
you ROCK Mama...and I am so happy for your success. And of course, I have loved reading your blog for some time.
Hi from Florida! We brought MiniMac to Disney.
Oh Lee...get well soon! I'm going to miss hearing from you. It's always a highlight of my day.
Funny you should post this. I still haven't come up with a blog for today and don't know if one is forthcoming. I have so much to do getting ready for daughter's confirmation this weekend, son's homeschool, cleaning and preparing for house guests, grocery shopping, laundry, dishes, etc... Maybe I should blog about that! Who knows.
Wow...I just found you...I hope you don't boot me. Me with only 27 followers...I can't even imagine having three hundred and something. But you're good and when you're good, you get readers! Now, go on and get well....we need input.
I did some blog maintenance over the weekend and eliminated about 100 of 300+ people I am following because I've never heard from them. You on the other hand, I adore.
You have the barfing disease AND vaginal atrophy? Damn girl! Yous one unlucky bish! On a different coin - I hope you feel better soon I totally heart you!
Sometimes I worry that some of my followers/commentors are going to leave because I never respond to them BUUUUUTTTTTTTT I CAN'T because they have that no reply comment thingie and their comments are always so fab it makes me sad!
I went through and eliminated some blogs on my reader... my time is way more limited for the computer than many so I had to keep the ones that keep me coming back. I know I don't follow every one that follows me BUT I don't have time to worry about it. My worry list is full and everyonce in awhile I feel really bad but I mean...whatdya do? There's only so much time... I totally wish I didn't have to eat, sleep, shower or shit AND if I had a laptop instead of that stupid monster desktop I'd totally get more net time. Sheesh...why am I still babbling...I got blogs to read!
Cheers! Hit the Nyquil bottle for me a coupla times too!
I absolutely agree with you. If someone expects me to read and comment, I expect the same. I do have a few blogs I continue to read because I like them, but I don't feel obligated to comment if they don't return the favor.
OFF WITH THEIR HEADS!!!
Too dramatic?
I like Moog's idea! Instead of a friendly reminder I'd like a snarky, sarcastic, and/or funny comment please :)
I follow blogs I like to read. I keep a separate folder for those blogs that follow me, and those that comment on my site. I make sure to try and comment on their sites as often as I can.
Truth is, sometimes someone writes a post-- and I just don't feel the need to comment on it.
oh yeah, and I hope you feel better!
Lee, you have just written what I've been thinking. Yesterday, I UNFOLLOWED my first blog, I have been leaving comments on this little gem for weeks and every time she posts which is everyday! Not just one-liners either, sharp, clever (yes, I can do that once in a while) and she has not acknowledged or answered or even come by for a visit so she is now on my bye, bye list. She probably doesn't even notice but I sure feel empowered! Cue the Rocky music please, I have some stairs to climb!
Lee ..Hope you feel better soon!! I do my very best to reply to the people that leave me comments...although I dont have over 1000 followers but still it does take time. I still follow alot of blogs that havent acknowleded me or followed me back..I just dont comment. Plain and simple.
So question? Do you follow people that you don't really even like or connect with just because they follow you?
I follow a couple of blogs that I stumbled upon and they have like a gazillion followers. They don't really acknowledge my existence but I really don't expect them to. I comment cause I have something to say. There are several that I read that I don't comment on at all just read. Then there are my faithful followers. I stalk them, and comment and enjoy the banter back and forth. Really though, I don't expect everyone to follow me, and I don't follow everyone who stops by my place.
But, you have to because I luuuuuuurrrrvvvvve your comments!
Mwah! GET WELL SOON!
I'm glad someone said it! Hallelujah!
being the new girl on the block, i've already felt the snub...i am a faithful follower and consistent commenter...and some blogs just don't acknowledge at all. so, you have empowered me, dear hot flash queen, i, too, am taking a stand and putting them to the test. (unless i just really like to read the blog and don't care about a reply...)
p.s. i love your blog. i love your posts. i love your witty comments.
oh, yeah. and i hope you feel better soon. as bug says, "being sick is no fun."
I don't know how many blogs I have in reader...but it is a lot! I only have 30 followers and very few of them comment.
I use to clean my friends list in Yahoo every one in a while but over there they had to ask to be your friend....it is so different here with the big kids. :(
I hope you feel much better soon.
get better soon dear.
With that said, I post daily (sometimes a couple times daily) and follow several peeps. I try and stop by every day, but with working full time M-F and being a mommy, I don't always have time to comment or even stop :o( *sniff* (poor, poor me) SO I am a little more tolerant of no comments.
I <3 you girl ;o)
get better soon dear.
With that said, I post daily (sometimes a couple times daily) and follow several peeps. I try and stop by every day, but with working full time M-F and being a mommy, I don't always have time to comment or even stop :o( *sniff* (poor, poor me) SO I am a little more tolerant of no comments.
I <3 you girl ;o)
I'm sick too. Hang in there and feel better soon.
Can a few people, it will make you feel better!
Don't ditch me! I'm new, I'm learning! I'm trying to reply! HELPPPPPP! I do whatever you say, I changed my reply format for you. Feel better soon! Being sick sucks!
Greetings Hot Flash Queen.
First time caller....first time visitor. A newbie if you will....I saw your comments on Klaw, and thought I'd pop over and see what you are all about.
Kuddos for the commenting btw...I ALWAYS try to reply to each and every comment that comes my way over at my blog...I love to write, don't get me wrong, but when something you write, inspires communication and interaction, that makes me happy. Bouncing ideas off each other...sharing musings and the like...ah, the joys of blogging.
Plus, you meet so many great people....readers, writers, there is so much to discover....so much to share.
Glad to meet you HFQ.
~hl~
{www.hoscorners.blogspot.com}
Hope you feel better soon.
I've been away for couple days myself for various reasons.
I did some soul searching and just like you I follow numerous blogs with no responses. So I did some house cleaning and I deleted all the blogs that didn't have the decency to visit me after 5 visits from me...so there. I rather spend my time commenting and visiting people who care and looking for new people who have the potential to care.
I say to all the bloggers who don't care - screw you - your loss.
Sorry for venting in your comment box....feel better.
Feel better, asap! Sending you great no sicky vibes.
I hate that too, its just annoying that someone reads everyday and doesn't comment!
And hurray to your amount of followers, that is wondrous!
Off to check out that funny girl you mentioned ;)
Welcome to the world of sickness. I had a toilet issue last night that changed my life. It was brutal.
As far as commenting goes, I used to not care at all. Now I heart each and everyone of them, and try to respond to them all. I can't imagine trying to do that with 85 comments.
I've given myself an erection just thinking about it.
Damn. Hang on.
I love that you say things so many bloggers are afraid to. I lurve The Blog Life but I do have a (lower case) real life to tend. You know that I'm struggling with these issues, too.
Feel better!!
PS WTH? You have that many posts ready to go??
so i'm reading and for some reason (at the part when you talk about getting a blogger's attn) i read 'but it is so tiring to throw your hands in the air, and wave 'em like you just don't care.' daylight savings has me all crazy...
and lee--you are TOO sweet. thanks for the mention! i heart you...and now i'm pretty sure my blood pressure has doubled due to performance anxiety.
hahaha. You don't sound sick! :)
I have 200 or so blogs in my reader....I have probably only commented on 50 or so! ha. Does that make me a lurker? I just deleted 2 that I never read anyway-becuase I get distracted 2 sentences in... when those 2 were showing up bolded, I just clicked "mark as read" ...so that was a sign to delete!
I read every blogger who follows me. I don't always leave the comments though..Sorry about that. I do appreciate the comments and try to comment when I can think of something that isn't completely repetitive and boring. It is daunting being the thirty something, sixty something or eighty somthingth commentor/commentator...
Hullo lass, sorry to hear you are ill. :O( I am back in the land of the living after all that debauchery of my 40th birthday celebrations. Thank you for your lovely wishes. xx
Dump their sorry asses. They're so not worthy. I, too, live for my comments and think I'm going to import Disques to injaynesworld the way I have it at thestoponbycafe. Because I really love to interact with everyone. Then I'm going to advertise: "Will perform unnatural acts for comments," because I'm nothing if not a shameless begger who felt unloved as a child. I love you, Lee, and always going to stalk you.
I follow you! And I think you follow me but when I moved my blog I had to start the stupid widget all over again, I have like four followers and my feed count is up to a whopping 3, yes 3 now. I used to have 178 in feed subscriptions and over 250 in followers.
I do hope you feel better soon, I had that crap a couple of weeks ago and it knocked me flat.
I'm heading over to On The Verge right now so chill.
I'm afraid to follow too many blogs because then I wouldn't have time to comment on all of them. Once I follow, I comment as much as possible. Most of the time it's every post. :)
Anyway, if they don't acknowledge you maybe you should drop em...I don't know. : )
I'm a fairly new blogger. So I don't have much to offer on the comment/don't comment, (or follow/don't follow) side of things. I have been a lurker here for a while and find your blog entertaining. I visited On the Verge - very funny! I hope you feel better.
I'm right there with ya! I only follow a few that don't follow me. WELL under a hundred. I don't know how you do over 300. Are you crazy?
Have fun sorting through them, though. Sounds like it will be a blast!!! :op
Hope you feel better soon!!!
Queenie~ I love you & I read you everyday! I would love you to send your peeps my direction. Please send me your info I need to mail you your cookbook! And yes, you MUST cook!! HAHAHA!! Love you & LOVE that you make me laugh everyday!!
kat aka Mama Bird
dooooooooooon't deleeeeeeeeeeeeete meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee pleeeeeeeeeease
love you, hope you feel better soon!!
xoxoxo
my sphincter is puckered! I am so afraid that you will send me an email and I will miss it and then you will shitcan me and leave me all alone!
Don't do it!
Very good idea, good luck! Hopefully you won't have to get rid of too many folks :)
Well, you know my DRAMA with google/blogger/google reader...it's all messed up. But, I hear ya. I don't like to be ignored so if I comment on a blog numerous times wihtout ANY response at all, they're gonzo.
oh the blog roll dilemma. i follow about 300 blogs, and i'd say MAYBE 50 of them come around and visit mine from time to time (that i know of -- not all leave comments). so i figure if i have left comments repeatedly and they never (or rarely bother), i give them the heave ho unless i love their blogs. there is only so much time in the day! it is hard to get to all of this stuff, and if there isn't much reciprocation it gets discouraging.
and
HOPE YOU FEEL BETTER SOON!!!
Sorry you are sick :(
I am voting with the majority, don't waste your time or feelings on the snootie pootie's who can't be bothered to interact with others. It's very time consuming to follow and comment on all the blogs in your kingdom don't waste it on those who don't care! Feel better quick! :)
I love returning the comment love:) Hope you are feeling better really, really soon!
Hope you get to feeling better soon,I'm just trying to catch up on my blog reading. Heading over to On the Verge now.
feel better.
here's how I do my bloggy life...
if the blog is funny and keeps me laughing EACH time I go there, I will continue to follow and comment even if the favor is not returned.
all else...screw 'em. :)
If someone comments on my blog I do try to respond, or at least go to their blog and leave a comment...ABOUT their post not just a hey thanks for stoppin by MY blog (me me me)...
anyway.
*cough* going to check out on the verge now.
Uh-oh. I haven't been around for awhile...is this directed at people like me? Ooops. I promise to be more faithful - "commentful."
I think I'm going to have to write a post with how I feel about this!
I'm so sad that you're sick! It seems like as soon as we rolled past Labor Day, BOOOOM! Everyone started getting sick! Feel better!
Am I bad?...I have started eliminating blogs from my reader (not unfollowing, just not reading). I have given these people many, many chances to acknowledge my existence. Some I will keep - they have lots of followers - but I love their info - and don't expect a response - I do not comment anymore, just read what I am interested in. Someone needs a blog dedicated to this crap.
Holly
Hope you feel better. The more people comment, the better you should feel. We're better than Vit C.
Charisse @ lifelaughlatte.blogspot.com
Be snarky with those non commenting rude Bloggers. Threaten them, call them names, accuse them of crimes that they did not commit. If that doesn't work-let em' go.
XO
Leigh
PS I hope that you feel better!
I think your strategery is spot on, at some point you gotta say bye bye if NO love is returned!!! move on to others who return the love to ya!
Will go visit your bloggie buddy now!
happy night,
Cameron
I didn't think you ever came to my site anymore...at least you don't comment. I though is was because of my word varification thing. But I do understand your need to 'trim the fat.' I have done that a few times, too.
Hope you feel better soon, girlie. I enjoy your blog. Makes me grin first thing in the morning. And here my husband thought it was because of him. But we won't tell him, okay?
You Rock! You are surely the commenting queen. And I love it. Maybe someday I can keep up.
Hope you feel better soon! Glad you have your posts all ready. Sorry, I kow that sounds very selfish.
Don't boot me!!! We still need to get coffee (maybe once my school semester ends)!!! Hope you feel better, let me know if you need me to take you any chicken soup, or a mommy sick meal.
I so agree with ya! I dont follow back my followers though unless I truly relate to their blog in some way. But if I follow a blog and I leave comments all the time and never get anything in return then I stop following them as well...gotta give back people!!
Hope you feel better soon!
Lee,
I am so sorry and so sad that on today of all days (when you are sick and kvetching about followers, etc) I missed your new post. I try to stay on top of things, but apparently I'm not doing a very good job.
Are you on any drugs? Are you hanging in there? Being a sick mama sucks. I hope SG & BB are taking good care of you!
xooxoxox
FEEL BETTER SOON!
(and sorry I'm so late to see this & reply)
oh, and i forgot to mention-- LOVE the Madea pic/caption!
You are right about those comments. They really mean a lot. I must admit that I don't always comment, but I try to most of the time. There's the word...TIME...sometimes it gets away from me.
I have noticed that you comment all the time. I see you on so many different blogs. Good for you! I'll try to be worthy, Great Blog Commenter.
Oh I hope that you feel better soon. I love your blog and thanks for being such a great commenter on mine. I'll try to be better.
U rock girl! If they don't know it by now, drop 'em like a bad habit. Well no - not a bad habit cause they are hard to break....."drop it like it's hot" (sorry - felt the need to bust a move when I say the word "drop it" - you know the Snoop song - drop it like its hot....)
OK - does anyone even LISTEN to thug life rap music but me?!?!
ok ok - nevermind.
LOVE ur blog - don't you even think of dropping me....I'll stalk you down and...well I don't know - leave anonymous comments or some shit like that!
GOD I need some sleep!
hope you feel better soon! =)
Tami G
I think if you really like the blog, keep reading it, even though you aren't being acknowledged, but on the blogs that are mildly entertaining but not friendly at all, go ahead and delete them. Good luck with your blog domination! I am rooting for you!
I can't even get my daughters to comment on my blog and it's mostly about them. My oldest the English teacher/writer/getting her masters degree said I should just blog for the pleasure not the comments.Well I do love the comments.
shalom.
yes, it's time that all those lurking fools come out of the shadows and REPRESENT. :)
you're a great lady with a great blog.
The blogs on my reader are in a particular order. The ones I love best are at the top the ones I like, but don't interact with are at the bottom. I do my best to get to them, but give the others priority.
Some blogs I adore and will comment on even if I get nothing in return. Today I found out that someone I adore and never comments on my blog does actually read it regularly, but can't leave a comment for technical reasons.
I am a unabashed comment whore.
Your approach to this is sound, fair and time consuming. You're a better woman than I am!
no, YOU rock!!!!! :) hope you feel better!! ...I think you are playing it fair :) blogging really does take a lot of time and care! Hope you have a nice Wednesday! :)
Okay, now I just feel cheated. Those little thugs get another chance, but us true chatty commenter types...well I don't know. I just felt cheated that you gave them knowledge of what you were doing. But I am smack dab in the middle of a wonderful PMS session. which I am sure makes you want to slap me, or laugh at me depending on how you are feeling today. I'm leaving now. But I love you!
I'm with you Lee! My first priority as a blogger is to put out quality content that I and others will enjoy. Next, I aim to stay connected with followers, keep up with commenters, a keep up the general reciprocity. I try to limit my blogroll to blogs I really enjoy and connect with, as well as those of the good people who've been kind enough to follow my blog. I'm always very impressed and appreciative of the way you leave really thoughtful comments ~ never a one liner, or a a "great post". I've tried to emmulate this in the way I comment on other blogs. Thanks for always having such great tips, ideas, and inspirations on how to be a better blogger!
Hello there! Thanks for commenting on my site. I really appreciate it. Sorry about the bad PR email you got. That stinks!
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